This post was inspired by my late night thoughts. While my mind is always on the go, I stopped to think about how far I’ve come. We humans often don’t give ourselves enough credit for how strong we are. I also really took the time to reflect and appreciate myself as a woman, something I have not done enough. The best confidence booster I ever received was from a complete stranger. He wrote to me, “You probably won’t read this but I just want you to know you are simply beautiful. Love yourself because if I was you, I would love every inch of me.” I never responded to him, but his compliment forever impacted me. Why are we women so hard on ourselves that only strangers can see what we can’t see? For all the women reading this, believe this about yourself. Hold it close to your heart. Embody it. Whisper it to yourself.
There is beauty in shedding your old skin to stand in your truth and be your own advocate.
As for the fashion aspect: When many think of fashion, they think of confidence also. Surely we all know by now that it takes a lot of confidence to take fashion risks? This is because in fashion sometimes we will take calculated risks, and other times it’s like spinning a wheel.
Below are 5 things I’ve found that helped me to be a confident fashionable woman:
- BE YOU!!
There is no one but you. There is no one before you who is you and no one after you who is you. Whatever you like, love, and dislike, that’s what makes you, you! We are all special because each of us is unique. When you stand in your truth, it allows you to be yourself and happy. This allows you to make honest fashion choices that best reflect you and that you will ultimately like.
2. BE AWARE OF YOUR STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES
Standing in your truth means knowing yourself, even the parts we aren’t too happy about. You must feel peace in your inner and outer self. This means even in your fashion choices. Maybe that shade of orange washes you out? Perhaps an oversized top makes you look frumpy instead of chic as you wanted? Or maybe a 4″ heel is un-walkable for you and you prefer 3″ heels instead? Whatever the case, don’t deny what makes you feel not your best because then it will effect your confidence in not just yourself, but your fashion choices as well.
3. ALWAYS BE READY TO LEARN
The more you expand your mind and learn about things, the more you in turn learn about yourself. With constant growth, comes constant evolving fashion ideas. It’s a great 2-for-1 special after all; you get the growth of your inner and outer self.
4. VALUE YOUR APPEARANCE
Enough of the constant stereotype that you’re shallow and dumb if you take care of how you look and put effort into it. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look your best and putting effort into it. Even if you’re “just” going to the grocery store. Life is to short. Value your inner and outer self.
5. VALUE YOUR VOICE
You know yourself better than anyone. Whether it’s in your choice to wear that bright orange faux fur coat or the navy blue stockings with a pleated skirt. You are always worthy, even when someone tries to convince you otherwise. I read a meme once that said whenever people project false narratives onto you, it is just them using you as a human mirror for what they avoid within themselves. That is why it is so important for you to value what you have to say. The truth will always triumph. When you value your voice, it means you value yourself enough to speak up to stop the aggressors. And when you value yourself, the “haters” can’t break you down. Do not ever let anyone bully you or abuse you.
Have you noticed yet that all of these are based on how you feel about yourself and not so much about fashion? Confidence is always the best fashion accessory. Wear it well because it is always worth the most out of your whole look.
OUTFIT DETAILS
Truth & Pride Blue Blazer – (Previous Season)
Dolce & Gabbana Purple Floral Crop Top – (Previous Season)
Valentina Shah Cloe White Pants – Valentina Shah
Jimmy Choo White Heel – (Previous Season)
Hermes 25cm Rose Pourpre Birkin – Hermes
Ma’aasalaama xoxo
Nadine
